Emotional Distancing: Identifying Signs, Root Causes, and Remedies

Emotional Distancing: Signs, Origins, and Remedies

Emotional detachment refers to a situation where an individual struggles to fully connect with their own or others' feelings. This condition can manifest as a part of an attachment disorder or arise as a temporary response to intense situations.

Emotional detachment might impact a person's physical, psychological, emotional, and social development. Yet, it can sometimes offer a shield during stressful phases.

This text delves into the indicators and potential triggers of emotional detachment.

What is emotional detachment?

Emotional detachment is a psychological problem that prevents an individual from fully immersing in their feelings or others' feelings.

It can be persistent, such as in people with attachment disorders, or a temporary response to extreme circumstances.

Signs and Symptoms of Emotional Detachment

Emotional detachment may manifest differently.

In Children

Children can develop two types of attachment issues, as per the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry (AACAP).

Reactive Attachment Disorder

Children may develop Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) due to negative interactions with adults in their early years.

Symptoms of RAD include:

Difficulty calming down
Lack of emotional expression during interactions
Overlooking comfort from primary caregivers
Appearing unhappy, scared, sad, or agitated during normal activities with primary caregivers

Symptoms of Disinhibited Social Engagement Disorder in children include:

Being excessively friendly with strangers
Approaching strangers for hugs
Allowing strangers to pick them up
Ignoring primary caregivers in unfamiliar situations

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In Adults

Adults with attachment disorders might exhibit symptoms like:

Struggling to open up
Troubled intimate relationships
Poor listening skills
Lack of physical, verbal, or sexual intimacy
Low self-esteem
Substance misuse
Ambivalence

What Causes Emotional Detachment?

The roots of emotional detachment can vary, being either a part of a larger attachment disorder or a reaction to specific situations.

Past Experiences

Children may have a higher chance of developing attachment issues if they experience challenging circumstances in their early life, such as:

Significant loss, like the death of a parent or separation from a caregiver
Traumatic events
Growing up in an orphanage
Emotional abuse
Physical abuse
Neglect
Lack of opportunity to foster a secure emotional bond with a caregiver

Medication

Individuals experiencing emotional detachment might sense emotional numbness. However, emotional detachment is not solely a symptom of a mental health condition or attachment disorder.

According to researchers, prolonged use of antidepressants can produce side effects.

In a study including 180 participants, 64.5% reported feeling emotionally numb.

Other Conditions

Feeling emotionally detached can be a symptom of several mental health issues, among which are:

Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD): Emotional numbness can occur with PTSD, as per studies.
Depression: People can experience depression differently. Some individuals might feel sad or down, while others might feel apathetic and emotionally numb.
Personality disorders: According to Mind, a UK-based mental health charity, people with borderline personality disorder can start feeling emotionally numb under high stress.

Is Emotional Detachment Ever Positive?

Whether or not emotional detachment is beneficial depends on its cause and context.

If it's due to a mental health condition or affects a person's relationships or daily life, professional advice might be necessary.

However, it can be advantageous in certain professions, such as healthcare, where controlling emotional responses can help prevent burnout and maintain mental well-being.

Some individuals might also experience emotional detachment as a coping mechanism for traumatic situations. However, seeking treatment is important to prevent this from becoming permanent.

Diagnosing Emotional Detachment

Trained mental health professionals can diagnose emotional detachment.

The initial step is usually an interview or assessment in which the mental health professional addresses the person's moods, thoughts, feelings, key behaviors, and recent changes. They'll also inquire about the duration.

Treatment for Emotional Detachment

Treatment for emotional detachment varies based on individual factors.

For children, the treatment plan may involve family members.

Adults' treatments depend on whether emotional detachment stems from a specific situation or an ongoing pattern.

Individuals can collaborate with mental health professionals to:

Learn how to open up
Discover methods for relieving stress and anxiety
Improve their ability to trust others
Strengthen their self-concept
Develop skills for managing emotions

When to Seek Help for Emotional Detachment

Mental health concerns are common, affecting 1 in 5 US adults each year, as reported by studies.

In general, the appropriate time to seek help is when emotional or mental challenges start affecting someone's daily life consistently.

This may occur when such challenges start causing:

intense fear and worry
shifts in eating patterns
alterations in sleep patterns
prolonged bad temper that doesn't seem to dissipate
vague or enigmatic bodily discomforts
explosive outbursts
isolation from social circles
decreased productivity at work or school
encounters with law enforcement
misuse of substances
thoughts of self-harm

Self-harm prevention

If you identify someone who appears to be at risk of self-harm or causing harm to others:

Ask the challenging question: “Are you contemplating self-harm?”
Hear the individual out without passing judgment.
Contact 911 or the local emergency number, or text TALK to 741741 to communicate with a trained crisis counselor.
Stay with the person until professional assistance arrives.
If it's safe, try to remove any weapons, medications, or other potentially harmful items.

If you or someone you know is struggling with thoughts of self-harm, a prevention hotline can offer assistance. The 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline is accessible 24/7 at 988. During a crisis, individuals who are hard of hearing can utilize their preferred relay service or dial 711 then 988.

Access additional links and local resources.

For individuals confronting emotional detachment due to specific circumstances, such as a health crisis, ensuring they have the support they require in the moment is critical.

Prospect for emotional detachment

Individuals who develop emotional detachment as a result of a traumatic event may face challenges learning to connect with others and grant themselves permission to fully feel their emotions.

Through extensive work with a mental health professional and community support, progress can be made.

Conclusion

Emotional detachment can be a significant mental health challenge, particularly when it emerges during childhood.

Individuals with emotional detachment can face significant hardships, but there is hope through treatment.

MR 01/31/24: It would be beneficial to modify the statement below by saying "certain specific challenging situations" rather than expressing that any challenging situation would result in detachment as a reasonable option (since not detaching can be exceedingly difficult for individuals who rely on it as a means of coping).

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